Asking your future in laws for their daughters hand in marriage is the most respectful way of doing things. However, you can still pop the question alone then meet with the parents afterwards. Some couples may want to advertise the fact that there are now married via newspaper, while others that have already been married or living together may choose to skip the advertising and partying, and just provide the families with the date of the wedding. Of course, once the couple is engaged, they are to refer to each other as fiancé (man) and fiancée (women).
ANNOUNCING THE DATE
When you have informed the parents of the great news, it is best then to inform close family, relative and friends. You can make it big news or keep it quieter and reserved for a while. However, if possible try to have them all gathered so that the announcement is more of a surprise and you will get to see everyone’s facial expression. Some couples like to announce their engagement in newspapers, also another great idea.
If you have yet to meet your fiancé (e)’s parents, you may what to now. Next, have the two sides of parents meet. Not mandatory but out of respect, the groom’s parents should contact the bride’s parents the first time. Most importantly make sure people find out about the wedding through you! Not word of mouth, this way people can congratulate you properly. Spread the word creatively. This is your chance to get people excited about the wedding, and even hint what the theme and atmosphere of the wedding might be like.
WHEN ENGAGMENTS ARE ENDING
When a couple is engaged, it is at this time that they feel like their relationship is moving forward and actually becoming more serious. With that in mind, couples may start to look for what the future has in stock for them. When a couple is engaged, they may start noticing things that they never noticed about their fiancé (e) before. Again, when you’re engaged is really when you can tell if your with the right person or not. Ending an engagement is always unpleasant however, the sooner it’s done the better. Remember, no explanation to why you ended the engagement is ever necessary and your decision should not be focused on how others around you will react! After an engagement is broken, the rings become an issue. If the bride breaks the engagement, although the ring legally belongs to her, she should return it, if the groom breaks the engagement, the bride is entitled to keep the ring if she pleases. The return of any gifts should then be returned to family and friends, and of course they should also be informed of the cancellation. With all that in mind, people need to remember that lovers fight and under the pressures of planning a wedding their judgment might have gotten the better side of them.